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Working girls and $ from certain men
Money from men bc they care? It happens. Not often but it does.
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From Trick to Friend, loneliness motivates me to make the change
Attraction not Promotion AA does not advertise. Meetings don’t recruit members. People look for meetings. I have always maintained that philosophy with clients. I shouldn’t say always. I experimented with reaching out to people who had posted about me on a discussion site. I was instantly branded a weirdo and people told each other they…
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Sex workers know not to expect commitment but still…
Secret relationships in Honolulu are common yet many never imagine the secrets professional men hold.
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Sex workers know not to expect commitment but still…
The fascinating unlikely long term relationships between sex workers and clients somewhat conform to traditional relationship standards.
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How did it feel to stand on the street waiting for a date?
Loneliness had a profound effect on me in a surprising way, although some would say I was a prime candidate to do what I did
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Taboo Honolulu–why do I really write about the forbidden?
Here is a vulnerability I have avoided in the years of writing about Honolulu taboos.
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I interviewed pimps, about what they had to offer
I was going to write a post mocking Honolulu pimps but my writing exposed the racism and loneliness within me that kept me from understanding a deeper truth about the pimp-sex worker ideal relationship.
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Sex workers have difficulty when they hate their work and when they enjoy it
A sex worker can find that enjoying her work backfires on her.
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Honolulu street sex workers have life partners and partners in crime
Yes, sex workers have boyfriends who understand the work is not about sex.
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Honolulu street sex workers have life partners and partners in crime
Surprised sex workers have boyfriends? You should not be surprised, especially if she is on the street. Let me be perfectly clear so I do not get criticized for playing into stereotypes and over generalizing. Not all sex workers are addicts. There are women, and men, who find the advantages of sex work over, say,…
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The Experience of being arrested for street prostitution
Here is how it felt to be targeted by undercover Honolulu police in a sting to catch street prostitutes.
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Loneliness is what changes sex worker-client interaction from oppression to relationship
Sex work is about loneliness for the client and amazingly, the worker. Surprising stereotype busting truths
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Panhandlers are surprisingly organized
The surprising true story behind people on the street holding signs
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Geriatric Hookers–Aging, Addiction, and Sex Work
I never thought aging on the streets of Honolulu and dealing with disability and death would be issues I would have to face one way or another, but I was wrong. What is my obligation and will anyone be obligated to me?
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Prostitutes List Tricks as Their Emergency Contacts
Relationships are Complex I had preconceived notions about people engaged in off track behavior when I first entered the world of drug users. These ideas were shattered to hell by realities I could never have guessed. The process of replacing wrong, long held and immutable stereotypes with new information that differs from person to person,…
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How do we rehabilitate when no one can define “habilitate?
https://www.quora.com/Does-prison-rehabilitate-criminals-or-harden-criminals-based-on-sentence-length/answer/Lessons-From-Harvard-to-Handcuffs-in-Hawaii?ch=10&share=7b0f1258&srid=1LASI
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Who pays for sex–sad sacks or sickos? Neither and both
Sad sacks or sickos are the only ones who pay for sex, right?
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Honolulu Adult Services Providers on the street seldom have an online presence
Honolulu adult services providers on the street face obstacles to escape.
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IN THE WORDS OF A STREET PROVIDER–WHAT SHE SAYS
A real text message from an exhausted player on Honolulu’s streets I wondered what had happened to the woman I had planned to interview. Here is the text message she sent me. This message gives a window into the afternoon of a woman who needs money so she will get into the car of someone…
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A real text message from an exhausted player on Honolulu’s streets
I wondered what had happened to the woman mi had planned to interview I walked back to town from St. Francis Hospital all the way up Liliha Street. I didn’t forget we were supposed to meet. I wanted to see who was around and I still had stuff I bought with me. I ended up…
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On the street you try to kill your human feelings
When you are in the street you strive for indifference but often fail to achieve it.
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Prison in Hawaii Showed me the real me in how I coped
I was in prison in Honolulu, Hawaii during the early years if the 21st century. Life behind bars challenges you because you have no stress. Stress can be a good thing when it is in the form of challenges you have the power to conquer. Stress is harmful when you are powerless to control your…
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Hawaii Police Join the Nation in Shooting an Unarmed Black Man to Death
I spoke too soon when I wrote they don’t kill black people in Hawaii. In a disturbing trend, Hawaii joined other states this week when the police killed an unarmed African man. They said he “charged” at the officers, “seriously injuring” one officer. They tased him but it was “ineffective.” They shot him 3 times…
Hawaii Street Life-smart & sexy experience based commentary others dare not say 