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“Hitting Bottom”–What an Addiction  Myth, Part 1


Addicts do not need to hit bottom

Forget what you have heard about hitting bottom. The concept of hitting bottom is reliant on the assumption that the person with the addiction will come to a certain point where she realizes that her present state of being is the worst it could possibly be, or at least, the worst that they can accept. However, anyone familiar with someone Who has been in the depth of an addiction knows that there is no such thing as things being as bad as they can get. As long as the person is still breathing things can always get worse. Moreover, it is frightfully true that there is almost no limit to how low a person is willing to go. Many people in recovery have said “I thought I hit bottom, and then I grabbed a shovel, figuratively speaking, and kept on digging.” You see life is a good news, bad news story. The good news is, you
can get used to anything. But you know what the bad news is? You can get used to ANYTHING. Things that were once horrible, inconceivable, practically unmentionable at a certain point in life can eventually become run of the mill. Ho hum Just another Tuesday. You can become bored with something that once horrified you. For example, there are people who never imagined they would engage in prostitution. Prostitution was so far outside of the realm of possibility that they did not consider the option, and rejected. They never even thought about it. Then they get a little bit older, and I mean just a very little bit older, and times get hard. Money gets scarce when the people who used to give you drugs for free in order to get you addicted suddenly start withholding as part of their own grand plan. The money gets gone. Next thing you know, the same people who used to ask, rhetorical
questions like, “how could anyone ever do that?” now have the answer to that question. These people no longer state what they’d never do. Instead, on a broke day, at least once a day, these same people say “let me get this date (Honolulu colloquialism for an exchange of sexual favors for something of value). I will be real quick, and I’ll be right back in 15 minutes with some money so we can do this. ” They make these statements to similarly situated others who do not judge but wait, anticipating the usual 20 minute turn around time in downtown Honolulu so they can “pick up.” This scenario, a nightmare to the uninitiated, proves that bottom is not something that one hits, the way one runs up against a wall that cannot be breached. Bottom is something we live with, and comfortably–as long as we do not feel visible to people outside of the circle

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